Shyness can make it difficult for you to relate to other people both in social and work settings. I will tell you something that happened to...
Shyness can make it difficult for you to relate to other people both in social and work settings. I will tell you something that happened to a very famous person and with which you may feel identified.
The famous writer Agatha Christie was once invited to an event in her honour at a prestigious London hotel. When she went to enter the celebration, the doorman did not let her in because he did not know who she was.
She, being shy, felt unable to explain to the doorman that they were waiting for her. Agatha said nothing to him, turned around and went to sit in a waiting room; from there he heard the entire event in his honour.
It is possible that at some points in your life you have considered yourself shy; But are you really, or is it something else? Well, that will be something you will discover below.
Introversion, Shyness, or Social Anxiety?
It is essential to make a difference between these 3 aspects.
It is a way of being. Introvert likes to spend time alone. It is not that you feel uncomfortable in social situations; he just enjoys spending time alone and being in the background more.
Using examples, I myself embody an introvert. I love to be alone, always reading or watching movies or writing. I can easily deal with social situations, but if they give me a choice, I really avoid them as much as possible.
It is a state of mind that makes the sufferer feel nervous in a situation of social exposure. The shy person wants to have more social contact, but the excruciating fear of being judged causes them a lot of anxiety and frustration.
I remember having a friend in elementary school, a bright and kind boy, very nice with whom he always did homework and played. I was her only friend, so when she was with me and her sister we had a great time; however, it turned into a trembling sheet of paper when he had to go to the board to do some exercise; so much so that his sweaty hand was marked on the green board and sweat dripped.
It is sickly shyness. The social anxiety is considered a mental health problem because it prevents the sufferer cope in any situation involving contact with others; reaching the point that it takes you away from the people who are closest to you.
Why can social anxiety be a problem for your happiness?
It is a problem because it prevents you from coping in the most necessary situations for a person's life. When you suffer from social anxiety, situations like going to school, working or having friends become impossible; This can lead to a lot of sadness and frustration. Therefore, you should seek professional help that allows you to successfully overcome this situation.
How to overcome social anxiety?
If you have reached this point it is because you actually want to get over this dark episode in your life. I can tell you that if you have recognized that this is what fills you with terror, you can overcome it with the help of a psychotherapist who will give you the guidance you need.
What the psychologist will do is help you change the way you think, behave and react differently than you usually do; Of course, the change in you will emerge gradually and only if you wish.
Also, practice relaxation or yoga, this to achieve a mental and spiritual balance that gives you control of your own being. Another option is to see a psychiatrist and help you treat it with medication. This in extreme cases.
Remember: this is only one period of your life that you can overcome and that many others have already done. Meanwhile, just learn all you can from yourself and fight back; Strive to keep going and don't let it beat you.