In my opinion, there is no worse feeling than the one I experience when I feel envy, resentment, and hatred. Even when out of pride, I do no...
In my opinion, there is no worse feeling than the one I experience when I feel envy, resentment, and hatred. Even when out of pride, I do not agree with the other, knowing that he has it, I feel terrible.
It often happens - and I am ashamed to admit it - that when someone achieves something that I yearn for, envy invades me. It's just a feeling that lasts for a short time, but it doesn't stop making me feel uncomfortable. I know it is not correct; I am clear that I do not know the path that person had to travel to achieve it, but it is inevitable not to feel that slight feeling of "envy" that makes me covet what she has.
Before, I tried to convince myself that the envy I felt was "good." The reality is that there is no "good envy"; it is just ENVY. The word "good" does not diminish its importance because it will continue to be that same corrosive feeling of desiring what is foreign.
It is the same with resentment and hatred. As much as the person who inspires you deserves it, they will hurt you. It is the same as trying to justify a lie by arguing that it was "white." The name "white" does not diminish its importance because it will not stop being a lie.
What do negative emotions do with your life?
Something that many people are unaware of is that all the negative emotions we experience harm us in every possible way.
To begin with, it deteriorates your effective relationships. Let me tell you that if there is something really fragile between people, it is the relationships with their loved ones.
The reality is that a marriage, a father-mother relationship, and children, siblings, etc., can be damaged even without realizing it. Just a comment that is not intended to offend but taken wrongly can generate resentment is enough. This feeling can last for only a few hours and even years.
There can also be envy between siblings, and this can indeed cause competition to arise from the one who feels "below" to show others that he is capable of more. Of course,, all it seeks is to fill personal gaps, but it continues to deteriorate the sibling relationship.
Negative emotions also damage physical health in ways you might not even imagine.
The hatred, for example, will make you feel resentment. The resentment, in turn, will make you want to take revenge. Those desires can occupy your mind so much that they will deteriorate your sleeping and even eating habits. An emotion as harmful as hatred should have no place in anyone's life because even if you can hurt and "collect" what they did to you, in the long run, you are only going to lose.
Repercussions on health due to negative emotions
You may wonder how it is that emotions can harm your body. The answer is easy: we are a whole; mind and body are connected. It's like when you go to eat something that you don't like very much, and you immediately think, "This is going to make me sick," and half an hour later, you feel like vomiting.
It is important for you to know that poor emotional health will weaken your immune system. What happens when it weakens is that you are prone to getting sick more easily than other people.
When a person has negative emotions, as well as when they feel stressed or anxious, they will see their body affected. You may lose your appetite, you will not be able to sleep properly; you may even start using harmful substances.
The consequences in the body are:
-Pain in the back and chest.
-Loss or gain weight.
-High blood pressure.
As you can see, there are not a few damages that we can experience as a result of stress, resentment, anxiety, or envy. That is why it is vital that we learn to handle it in the proper way so that we do not harm ourselves.
What can we do to control negative emotions?
There are several ways in which you can deal with negative emotions; for example:
1 Express in an appropriate way what you feel and think
Talking when anger is involved can be fatal to personal relationships. And it is that with those feelings in between, nothing good can come out of your mouth.
A good tactic is to wait for the excitement to pass. Wait as long as necessary and when you are calmer, then it is time to speak.
Something that is also effective is keeping calm in moments of confrontation. It may be difficult at first, but with a little practice and being quiet you prevent confrontations from getting out of hand.
2 Focus on the good in others
People don't just do things that hurt and annoy you; they also do things that are worthy of admiration. Those types of actions are the ones that you should always keep in mind in order not to give way to those bad emotions.
Your mother doesn't want to hurt you when she asks you to fix yourself. Your father doesn't hate you when annoyingly tells you that you should try harder, that you shouldn't be mediocre. So it is with all people.
Yes, it is also true that there are people who are going to harm you just for the fun of it; However, behind that "hatred" for you is the hatred they feel for them. By attacking you, what they do is the attack that part of them that they see reflected in you. It is not justifiable, but it does prevent you from hating them and wanting to hurt them; instead, you can face it but not "pay them in kind"; be smarter.
3 Be resilient
Resilience gives you the ability to cope with difficult situations in life in the best way. When you are able to "put your kindest face" in difficult situations, your life becomes easier to live.
4 Don't give so much importance to what others say
It is related to the last thing expressed in point 2. They attack you to attack that part of them that bothers them so much in you or they say and do offensive things and they don't even realize it.
That does not make them less harmful, but if you know it, you can handle it properly. Only you will know how far you will let your emotions go and what you will do to face the complex situation. Remember, you must want to have control over yourself and you will win. They may want to hurt you, but are you going to please them?
Don't forget that you have the power to control yourself. That alone should be enough to not allow your bad emotions to harm you and those you love.