Self-care is one of the few topics that is talked about, but one that is fundamental for life. Finally, with whom you will live for the rest...
Self-care is one of the few topics that is talked about, but one that is fundamental for life. Finally, with whom you will live for the rest of your life, you are yourself. It is therefore that you are one of the fundamental people to whom it is convenient to know how to love and care.
Sometimes selfishness is confused with self-care, and that makes it difficult for us to exercise it.
One of the fundamental differences is that a selfish act is driven by a lack of self-love, by insecurity, by fear. While self-care is driven by love, love of oneself, and of others. Even when we set limits, it is out of love for oneself, and for not allowing the other to do something that they will regret being an unworthy treatment.
With that said, here are some self-care ideas:
Sleep the necessary hours
It has been seen how the lack of rest affects the human being. Both in his immune system, as in the emotional state, as in his cognitive processes. You can have a routine before bed and a set time to do it. This will make it easier for you to fall asleep and meet the necessary hours of sleep.
For example, there are those who meditate before going to sleep. Other people like to bathe and put on special sleeping creams. Others have a relaxing tea or put a diffuser with scents, push themselves up and go to bed. You, do you have any?
Many people think that dieting means stopping eating things to lose weight. In reality, a diet is a way we eat. When we have a balanced diet, it has repercussions on how we metabolize food, and of course, on how we feel, if we have energy or exhaustion; even food affects our emotions.
You can write down which foods make you feel heavy, and which ones are light and with more energy. Create a diet that generates well-being. And by this, I don't mean the immediate pleasure of eating a chocolate chip cookie, but rather that bodily sensation of lightness and energy combined.
The body is made to move us. In fact, if we analyze it calmly, life is movement. When we breathe we move our chest, when we walk we move our entire skeleton; even more when we laugh.
When we do not move during the day, this also atrophies our bodies. There are substances that are no longer secreted, that have to do directly with pleasure, such as endorphins. So, get moving: laugh, dance, walk, play, and if you want, also exercise.
Take care of your internal dialogue
Our thoughts are constant. In them, we are naming our experience. Also, we internalize the voice of our caring figures from when we were little. In general, the voice of mom and dad are in those thoughts, in our internal dialogue.
Sometimes that internal voice is important to pay attention to and begin to modify certain lines. Many things we internalized were unresolved emotions from our parents. Sometimes we also internalize things that teachers or classmates told us, but that are no longer useful now. On the contrary, they can even harm us.
Starting to pay attention to what we say to ourselves and how we treat ourselves is important. Finding the voices of those who are there, and that perhaps we already wish to silence within ourselves. Learn to speak to each other in love, with patience, and seeking learning. Find your own phrases, full of self-care.
Finding time to recreate is essential. There are those who have talents that they can never develop by being engrossed in the needs of others . Being able to give space and time to recreate yourself in your tastes, hobbies, talents is important. That will recharge the battery to be able to fulfill the other aspects of your life. It will also give you a new spark for your relationships. Even being able to share a little of this aspect with them.
Give rise to emotions
As I said before, life is movement, it can also be seen in our emotions. How they go up, down, they are transformed moment by moment. Being able to accommodate them, process them, name them, and listen to their needs is important. It is part of your care.
Those feelings exist to be able to attend to you. When we ignore them, then we get sick or explode against others without understanding what happened. You can give yourself a space to detect what you feel. You can talk about them, write them, paint them, dance them… find your personal way of processing them.
Take care of your relationships
Your environment, your relationships, are an important reflection of your personal treatment. What you dislike about your relationships with others is highly likely to be the way you treat yourself. They are your mirror. Working on your relationships is also working on your relationship with yourself.
What you give to others, what you take, what you allow, has to do with how you treat yourself. How much do you think you deserve or not, how much you give yourself or not, how many beliefs you have about yourself that you hear in the words of others.
In addition to this , healing your relationships and taking care of them will also keep you in a much more pleasant emotional state. Taking care of your environment is taking care of yourself, it is also a reflection. As well as your physical environment, your spaces: your room, your office; By maintaining harmony and order in it, it is also felt inward, and vice versa.
This aspect, after all, is the thread of the meaning of personal life. That which transcends life itself and allows you to stand. Taking care of this aspect of your life is essential.
You may not be clear about your path, but being able to continue searching without forgetting this aspect of your life will also contribute to your life resources that will add to your life when you least imagine it.