We all know what it is to feel sad . The reasons that lead us to feel sad differ from person to person. This is how some people only need a...
We all know what it is to feel sad. The reasons that lead us to feel sad differ from person to person. This is how some people only need a gray and rainy day for their spirits to decline, while others require a painful situation to suffer. The truth is that we all go through very bad times.
There is nothing wrong with being carried away by that emotion; moreover, it should be a duty of self-love to allow ourselves to cry, yell, complain, and suffer if a situation hurts us. What is not good is to suppress that pain or not to seek to stop it when it is already out of control.
Repressing leads us to accumulate discomfort, and as a consequence, to explode in a fit of anger, or to become ill due to accumulation of stress. Now, you know that your sadness reached its peak when compulsive thoughts of hurting yourself start to bombard you and you feel driven to hurt yourself. This is what often happens with a deep depression.
Sadness or depression?
The difference is great. The sadness we all feel at some point, it is a state of mind. Instead, depression is a mood disorder that does or does require psychological or psychiatric treatment, as the case may be.
Feeling sad is a small facet of depression. When a person has a depressive picture, he will be sad, but it is a chronic state that joins other symptoms of discomfort and anguish. Rather, sadness is only temporary.
Added to the above, depression leaves the person who suffers from it completely unable to cope with their daily lives. Going to work, dealing with their children, and shopping is overwhelming, and they lose track of how to do these tasks. In contrast, a sad person may continue to work and even go out with friends; That helps them get through that bad moment that has him heartbroken.
Now, do not lose the north. When a sad feeling is too long, it may become an exogenous depression (caused by external events).
The truth is that whether it is an exogenous depression (due to the death of someone or a love breakdown) or an endogenous depression (caused by an imbalance of neurotransmitters), depression REQUIRES medical treatment.
Express your pain, let it out!
You who know yourself so well, you know the best way in which venting will allow you to release pain.
If it works for you to talk to someone or cry yourself dry, do not hesitate and do it. Is it your thing to isolate yourself? do it until you feel good, and if that does not happen, find a way to resume your life. Scream or write a letter, and burn it or send it to the person who hurt you, but you have to take that pain out. Do you like to exercise to relieve stress? Do it and do not delay! You deserve to let off steam and be a happy person again.
Don't let anyone tell you that you are exaggerating; it is your pain and better than anyone you know how much damage it causes you, keep processing it until it comes out. Whoever judges you, either never suffered or cannot put himself in your shoes; let him know that you need someone to listen to you.
There are people who do not know much about empathy or their emotional intelligence is very low and they cannot put themselves in your place; it's not their fault, but you don't have to deal with it.
There will also be friends who will be there for you without judging you, they will hug you, listen to you and even cry with you; take advantage of them, few people really love you outside of your family.
What is the use of crying?
Crying is the most common way that people express their helplessness and pain.
What is it for? To purify yourself, wash away your suffering, let off steam, and to be free. Wondering what crying is for is like asking someone what they eat for. Crying for many people is a need arising from their human condition. There is no weakness in someone who cries, whether it is a man or a woman.
A man is no less "macho" if one day he cries at the breakdown of a relationship or the death of a relative. One woman is not a "drama queen" because she cries more than another; it's just the way you have to vent.
Be careful - yes - with the woman who cries to manipulate; He is as dangerous as the man who threatens to beat you to make you stay by his side. Any expression of pain should be moderate, both for the sufferer and for the comforter. It must be because the sufferer does not want you to feel sorry for him or her. And the one who comforts does not want to be manipulated by tears to stay by the side of someone who now uses their crying to make you stay by their side.
There is nothing wrong with feeling sad. Let time pass over you and allow you to overcome and heal the pain. Get ready, because you came out of that moment stronger and braver to face life. You will never again suffer to the same extent from a similar situation. You passed the test and now life awaits you for you to enjoy and not for you to see.