If something distinguishes us from men, it is our ability to always find a topic to talk about. I must admit that I like to talk; however, t...
If something distinguishes us from men, it is our ability to always find a topic to talk about. I must admit that I like to talk; however, there are women who seriously enjoy this activity.
A few years ago, I shared a room with a girl who I could have sworn if they covered her mouth, she would have little signs. His ability to tell everything that happened to him in the smallest detail was incredible. Sometimes I reached a point of such mental exhaustion, -that inadvertently- I fell asleep while she told me her anecdotes.
What's behind our love of talking?
The truth is that to a greater or lesser extent, we women love to talk and tell everything in minute detail. But behind this phenomenon, there are some interesting things that you should know:
1 Brain connections
Women have a greater number of brain connections between the two hemispheres. This makes it much easier for us to talk and do other activities at the same time.
In addition to this, neurological fluctuations help us to express our emotions verbally or in writing.
Something interesting is that language activates the pleasure centers in our brain, even more, when it comes to expressing our affections and love misadventures, and when we find another woman who is able to listen and respond actively, we get much more excited.
2 The capacities and abilities of men and women are very different
Better intuition, memory, analysis, and even greater language development are attributed to us. In contrast, men do much better in areas such as physical and motor coordination, math, and space-time management.
3 The "chemistry" of our body works in our favor
For girls, estrogens help the brain connections that have to do with language to activate. It is because of this that we are better prepared to carry out symbolic and vocal behaviors.
Add to the above that in our body there is a greater presence of FoxP2 protein (30% more). This is known as the language protein.
4 Talking helps in areas you never imagined
Talking helps us to release stress, we do not seek answers to problems, only lighten the load. In addition, it facilitates the ability to read the emotions and moods of others.
When we speak we reveal what we feel; But if there is something much more interesting, it is that talking can help us to have greater intimate satisfaction; this according to the conclusions reached by researchers from the Weizmann Institute in Israel.
Talking can also help you live longer, according to science
A study carried out by the Einstein Institute explains that how long you live can be more a matter of attitude than genetics. According to this, if you are a more outgoing or optimistic person, your quality of life will be higher and therefore you will be happier and you will live longer and better.
Another interesting fact is that expressed by the psychiatrist Luis Rojas Marcos. He in his book We are what we speak explains that to live longer and better, people should speak an average of 15 thousand words per day (women can reach 20 thousand words and men only achieve 7 thousand).
According to the expert, talking keeps you more stable mentally and emotionally and it is not rigorous to do it with another person, you can talk both with your pets and with your plants and even alone. Why not?
Talking is great, but listening is better
We already know that speaking is a liberating act that in a certain way improves the quality of life of everyone in general. And although this is very true, it is also true that many times we also need to be heard.
Sometimes women not only need to talk, but we also need someone to interact with us. We want to know what you think about what we are commenting on; this to find a middle point or an objective vision of what worries us.
In the same way, we are not only "beings producing incessant verbiage"; We also like to listen carefully to what someone needs to say.
The reality is that by being endowed with the ability to vocally express our emotions, we are also able to read those of other people. With this, we can come to a better understanding of how others feel; as we empathize more with them, and for this reason, we can be more effective when expressing a solution to the problems of others, or simply be useful at the moment of the "liberating act of venting."
I invite you to continue enjoying your ability to talk about what you think, feel or come to mind on a topic; but also for you to be more aware of the needs that people around you have to be heard.
Your husband or kids may not talk as much as you do, but they need it too. Encourage them to open up with you, you can listen to them and help them unload their sorrows. Even try to let them know that even if they don't want to, you will be there willing to listen to them and talk about what they need without fear of being judged.